The Tools

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You are likely feeling total despair.   It's ok.   Of course you feel this way.   Your feelings are REAL, they are OK, you are ALLOWED to have them, you have PERMISSION to feel this way. 

Remind yourself - EVERY DAY - that you have this permission to feel.    

Myriad resources exist to help you. 

Therapy:   This is important and a good first step.   Just know therapy takes time, you have to find the right person, and it's SLOW....   

Pod Casts:    I find these to be amazing because you can use them at all times.... driving, walking, resting, crying.  They are free, they are plentiful so you can find what works for you, and they open you to what is possible.   I listen, re-listen, and re-listen to these whenever possible. 

         Here are my favorites: 

1. Tami Simon and Michelle Wadleigh -  Insights at the Edge:  I demand to be ME!  - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sounds-true-insights-at-the-edge/id307934313?i=1000779847324
2. Tami Simon and Oren Jay Sofer -   Insights at the Edge:   Stretch your heart and say what you mean:   https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sounds-true-insights-at-the-edge/id307934313?i=1000737846568
3. Tami Simon and Francis Weller - Insights at the Edge:   Our Apprenticeship with Sorrow:   https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sounds-true-insights-at-the-edge/id307934313?i=1000737846491
4. Lawrence Joss and Nima Rahmany - Family Disappeared:  Shadow Work and inner child co-regulation Part 1:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/family-disappeared/id1694971410?i=1000736088143
5. Lawrence Joss and Nima Rahmany - Family Disappeared:  Shadow Work and inner child co-regulation Part 2: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/family-disappeared/id1694971410?i=1000737076392
6. Tami Simon and Sarah Blondin - Insights at the Edge:  Heart Minded - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sounds-true-insights-at-the-edge/id307934313?i=1000737846642

Courses:    There are many courses you can take.   They help.  We need guides and mentors through this process.   Find a course that works for you.  It helps.    My favorites: 

1. Sarah Blondin:    This Deepest Self:    This is by far the most important part of my recovery work.   She takes you through "the wisdom of loneliness",  "the wisdom of anger," etc.   this is the best $40 I have ever spent.  I RELY on these recordings and love love love them for what they do to help me further my relationship within my inner self.    DO THIS!       https://www.sarahblondin.com/offers/SHQSzppu/checkout
2. Dr. Nima Rahmany:    The Overview Experience:   This course is incredible.  Dr. Nima has been through it himself.  He is dedicated to helping people "do the work."  It is approachable, it's wildly effective, and it is even fun. Blow your mind, expand your heart, and learn how to be Trigger Proof.  https://becometriggerproof.com/trigger-proof-experience/

Community:   You need community.   You need those that understand what you are going through.  You need people to be vulnerable with.  You need to hear their stories, as they shed light on what is going on inside of you too... We are all on this journey on "Earth School."  Do it together. 

1. Parental Alienation Anonymous:   a great community that meets many times per week.   Uses the 12 step program adapted to the topic of recovering from and living with Parental Alienation.  https://parentalalienationanonymous.com
2. Dr. Nima Rahmany:  Trigger Proof Leader / Co-regulated and Magnetic:    This community is amazing.   Meet 2-3 times per week to dive deep into yourself.   Your parts, your inner children, your nervous system.    This is incredible work.   Find the way to do this!   https://becometriggerproof.com/trigger-proof-experience/

This is my pod cast.  Know that I am  just starting!   But I hope that I can provide resources, community, and conversation that can help others find their way through this difficult time.