The Chasm
Surprise
At first, you can hardly believe it. "What??? Wait, what are you saying? I can't see my kids? What is going on? How can this be?"
Freaking Out
As alienation sets in, there is an incredible resistance to reality. To even believe for a moment that you can't be with your kids is unthinkable. "This simply cant be real!" You will spend time here (a lot of time). You will get angry. You will feel righteous. You will spend lots of time in BLAME! Know that this is natural. This HURTS!